Monday, March 11, 2013

Children and Sports

Children and Sports
As spring approaches your children are probably going to be asking about joining a sports team.
Sports help children develop physical skills, get exercise, make friends, have fun, learn to
play as a member of a team, learn to play fair, and improve self-esteem. American sports
culture has increasingly become a money making business. The highly stressful,
competitive, "win at all costs" attitude prevalent at colleges and with professional athletes
affects the world of children's sports and athletics; creating an unhealthy environment. It
is important to remember that the attitudes and behavior taught to children in sports carry
over to adult life. Parents should take an active role in helping their child develop good
sportsmanship. To help your child get the most out of sports, you need to be actively
This includes:
•providing emotional support and positive feedback,
•attending some games and talking about them afterward,
•having realistic expectations for your child,
•learning about the sport and supporting your child's involvement,
•helping your child talk with you about their experiences with the coach and other
team members,
•helping your child handle disappointments and losing, and
•modeling respectful spectator behavior.
Although this involvement takes time and creates challenges for work schedules, it
allows you to become more knowledgeable about the coaching, team values, behaviors,
and attitudes. Your child's behavior and attitude reflects a combination of the coaching
and your discussions about good sportsmanship and fair play.  It is also important to talk about what your child observes in sports events. When bad sportsmanship occurs, discuss other ways the situation could be handled. While you might acknowledge that in the heat of competition it may be difficult to maintain control and respect for others, it is important to stress that disrespectful behavior is not acceptable. Remember, success is not the same thing as winning and failure is not the
same thing as losing.  If you are concerned about the behavior or attitude of your chi
ld's coach, you may want to talk with the coach privately. As adults, you can talk together about what is most important for the child to learn. While you may not change a particular attitude or
behavior of a coach, you can make it clear how you would like your child to be
approached. If you find that the coach is not responsive, discuss the problem with the
parents responsible for the school or league activities. If the problem continues, you may
decide to withdraw your child.  

As with most aspects of parenting, being actively involved and talking with your children
about their life is very important. Being proud of accomplishments, sharing in wins and
defeats, and talking to them about what has happened helps them develop skills and
capacities for success in life. The lessons learned during children's sports will shape
values and behaviors for adult life.