Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Avoiding Sickness

Reading, Writing and Sneezing: Sick Kids at School

What's a Mother To Do?

Caught between the demands of work and family, many parents are sending kids to school sick. School nurses say it's happening more often, as the demands on parents grow.

"The child gets stuck in the middle," complains Elaine Z., a school nurse in an affluent Boston suburb. "Many parents will give a child Tylenol in the morning, then four hours later, at 11:30, the temperature is up and the kid is miserable. I get really annoyed when I say, 'Honey did you tell Mom you weren't feeling well' and the child says 'Yeah, but she said I have to go to school.'"

On the other hand, this nurse sympathizes with parents who must make split-second decisions during the morning mad-dash.

"The problem is, the judgment gets colored by what kind of day the parent has ahead," she adds.

Little Help From Corporate America

Despite the bull market and boom economy, corporate America continues to see the issue of backup or emergency childcare as a parent's sole responsibility. According to the Families and Work Institute, only five percent of companies with over 100 employees offer help with sick childcare.

One such company is Johnson & Johnson, the nation's largest healthcare products company, headquartered in New Jersey. It runs child development centers at six company locations, each with a separate area for mildly sick children ages 6 weeks to 6 years. A full-time nurse is on staff to provide medication and supervision as kids engage in quiet playtime activities. Each sick care room has a separate ventilation system.

"If a parent needs to be at a meeting and the child is running a slight temperature, they can bring them in," says company spokesman John McKeegan. "It's part of what makes Johnson & Johnson a good place to work, part of what attracts young families and helps us keep good workers."

Though Johnson & Johnson is not alone -- Chase Manhattan Bank in New York and John Hancock Life Insurance in Boston also offer on site sick kid coverage -- 84 percent of children surveyed for a Families and Work Institute report say that having mom present when they're sick nears the top of their priority list.

Parent Checklist: When To Keep Your Kid Home

Some expert advice from school nurses and work/family consultants:

Don't go by fever alone. A child's temperature is lowest early in the morning; he may in fact be ill but have a normal temp right before school. Check coloring, appetite, behavior and the nature of the complaint (does she have a stomachache because she didn't study for the spelling test?)

Have a back-up system in place (and a back-up to your back-up!)Develop a plan with friends and/or neighbors who agree to be called at the last minute to provide mild sick care coverage. Reciprocate as best you can; if an at-home mom can keep an eye on your sick kid on Tuesday, maybe you can take her kids to the movies Saturday when you're off work.

Don't argue with your spouse about who stays home (otherwise your child will think that she's at fault for being sick.) Take the discussion into another room where your child can't hear.

Be direct and pro-active with your boss using statements like, "I'm going to be at home today, but here's my plan for finishing the report." Or, if your presence equals productivity, say things like, "I've talked to Sue about swapping shifts tomorrow and she's willing to cover for me if you give the green light."

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